The Christianville Spirit
The Spirit that Creates New Beginnings
July 20th, 2023 – TCS # 820
Geia, My Readers! Well, Christian, This is a Recently New Greeting, You might say. Actually, You are Right, My Reader. It is a New Greeting! This Greeting comes from The Warm
European Country of Greece!
At This Moment, I am Happy to announce that We have a Two New PTLS Family Members representing
The European Country of Greece (GR) !
Said to Have the Literally The Clearest Water on It's Coastlines and A Variety of Islands!
From Calm Islands to Party Islands!
By The Way, The Greek Greeting means “Hi” in Greek and It is Pronounced “Yawh”. Think of a Young Person who is Surfer agreeing with What You just said, Only with a Slight European Accent. In Case, You were Wondering as an Added Extra, The Greeting comes in Two Formats, One in Latin Letter and One Greek Symbols.
Example: Geia (Latin)
γεια (Greek Letter)
Greece, Locally known as “Hellas” (Short Form) or Hellas Republic (Official Name), Weird Name but, Extends the Surfer Point, I just made, It is an Interesting Country, from What I have seen in Videos. For The Record, I have watched Three Videos about Greece, from The Traveling Minds of EECC Travels (Going to Athens, The Capitol or Athena)
and Hoffman Happy Travels (Athens / Athena; Santorini; and Mykonos). What I learned is about Athens is Stunning with It’s History; Santorini (The Island with Alll The Blue Domes!) is Beautiful but, Over-Touristed; and, Finally, Myknonos has The Most Beautiful Blue Water of All Shades! Sign me up for Mykonos! Oh and Apparently, It is also Part of Something that Health Gurus refer to as A “Blue Zone” (Translation: Where People live Much Longer in Life and Have Much more Fun. Think, Dancing, Olive Oil, Singing, and Oppa!)
Anyway, That went a Little Longer than I intended it to Go. Then again, When It comes to Geography. I get Very Passionate! I digress for Now!
So, So, Whenever The Late Joan Rivers wanted to talk about something deep and meaningful, She was always say “Let’s Talk”. So, “Let’s Talk”.
So, This is a Topic that A lot of PTLS Family Members have heard about, but Honestly, It is a bit Scary to talk about!
Your Kids getting Older! You See, When Your Child are Little You might not think about, Something that are needed when you are an Adult. We grow up fast, Let me tell ya! One Day, We are a Baby then....
The Next Thing You Know, We are 18 Years Old!
At Least, in The United States of America anyway. You are For All Intents and Purposes, An Adult.
Literally and Legally!
Even Though, Technically You reach Full Maturity at 25 Years Old. It is odd to Me that You turn into an Adult at 18 because You still have that Teenager Mentality, although Some People are Surprisingly Mature at 18 Years Old. Who Knows?! I digress.
Anyway, Having Special Needs and Turning into a (Legal) Adult, There are Sometimes, that like it or not. The Parent of The PTLSer (and, Other Special Needs too!) have to Consider!
That Dreaded Thing You have heard of, Called Guardianship. Luckily, In Certain States There is Guardianship and There is What I refer to as “Guardian Lite”. While There, There is also Tier Lists and The “Sub-Mom Clause”.
So, Let’s Talk about Some Things to consider when We turn 18!
So, This Newsletter, I am going to Get Real with You. Not because I want to but, Because I feel It is Necessary to Prepare My PTLS Family Members for The Future. Now, This is Something has always been at The Back of My Mind but, Most Likely on My Mom’s Mind than Anything. It is a Topic that has Floated Around in Our House and Kind of in Our Family Country in Back of Your Minds. It is Something that I don’t like to Think about, I should realize the Importance of. You See, Having Special Needs requires a lot of Planning, on Both The Person’s Part and The Parent’s Part. When The PTLSer, In This Case, is Young, It is Easy. Going to IEP Meetings in School, Going over Vacation Plans at Home, Knowing Where or What You are going to be Doing after High School just to name a Few. But, The Scariest One...What do You do when Your Mom is not on This Earth anymore. Morbid and Scary, I know!
**New PTLS Family Members, Please look away from This Newsletter and Read The Intros to Myself and PTLS. They are in The Christianville Classics List! Read This when You are Ready!**
Let’s Talk about Guardianship
Now, Luckily, My Mom and I have a Great Relationship so, We have a Plan in Place. Guardianship. Basically, that Means that My Mom is My Guardian and She makes The Big Decisions for Me. Luckily though, We live in a State that has Something New called “Supportive Decision Making”, Basically a Less-Strict Version of Guardianship. I call it “Guardianship Lite” because My Mom does not have Full Control of Decisions but, She can help with Them. Yes, under “Guardianship Lite” She can still talk to The Doctor but, She does not Control who I get to Marry or Date. Under Guardianship, She more likely than would.
Now, Don’t Get Me Wrong, You can’t Control who You fall in Love with It. However, If You have a Sibling and for Yourself, in Case You kind of have to. Keyword here, Kind of. It is Something I call, “The Tier List”.
“The Tier List”
Basically, In Guardianship, You have The Main Guardian (My Mom) and Then, You go into The “Tier List”.
What is Your “Tier List” and What does that mean?
Basically, The Person who takes over as Guardian. Most of The Time, It is Best to have a Member of Your Family, like Your Brother, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins. Whoever. That Part is Fine. I have Three Tiers in Place. Now, If You choose The Immediate Family Route, You have to consider something else. Who They Date and/or Marry. Their Romantic Person.
This is Something that in The Back of My Mind, I have not considered seriously. The Family Member’s Romantic Person would basically invoke What I called “The Sub-Mom Claus”. Basically, as Scary as It sounds, that Romantic Person would be “Sub-Mom”. Now, Baring in Mind, that Absolutely NO ONE would Replace My Mom Ever! They would not take The Guardianship Role, The Family Member would. However, They would take “Sub-Mom” Role. Basically, like a Permanent Substitute Mom. We Americans shorten The Term, “Substitute” into Sub, Ergo “Sub Mom”.
The Sub-Mom Clause
Now, Of Course, in My Special Needs Logic Mind, MY Romantic Person could take the Role as “Sub-Mom” and That could be Possible as well. Less Likely though only because A Romantic Person and A Mom do not Mix. Now, Of Course, My Brother knows about All This including “The Sub-Mom Clause”. He lets Anyone He dates or Likes Him that This is in store for Them. In My Mind, that is Not really Fair to do to Him. But, Like I Said, Planning. Now, What counts as “Sub-Mom” because It can’t be just Anyone. It has to be Someone who is Very Caring, Very Patient (as us PTLSers are Very Stubborn), Someone who Take The Time to Get to Know both in Personal Way and Professional Way, Knowing My Ticks, Looks, and Idiosyncrasies. They Most Definitely have to Understand My PTLS and Most Importantly, They have to Pass The “Admission’s Exam” of Both Grandma Honey and My Mom. But, More Importantly, My Mom. She give The All Clear Signal. Not Fair and Harsh, Yes. But, Think of It from You Own Mom’s View. Or Another The Mother of a Special Needs Child/Adult’s View. If They Kind and Loving to My Brother, Naturally They are Kind to Me. Believe Me, I have heard Many of My Brother’s (Ahem....Clearing Throat) Romantic Person’s call him names. Obviously, If They are Harsh to My Brother, They would be Harsh to Me. I believe Romantics call that, “The Waiter Theory”. I can almost hear My PTLS Friend, M.P Twinee poking at Me about coming up with Another Theory! Basically, It is means that how You treat a Waiter or Waitress at a Restaurant, if How They will Treat You. It is an Odd Theory but, It works. It would help also that They live in An Area that You would not mind living in because after all, You will be Living with Them. This is Something that You don’t think about, until It happens. But, The Importance of Where They Live means a lot because I would eventually have to Move to that Location. All in all, All Things within The Family support should be Considered and Who is going to Take Care of The PTLSer and Who will Be The “Sub-Mom”.
Thanks for Reading The Christianville Spirit. Prepare for The Future with Planning. But, Don’t Focus too Much on It.
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