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The Christianville Spirit
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April 22nd, 2026 - TCS # 938
Let’s Talk, My Readers! So, as The Late Joan Rivers would say on Her Show Fashion Police, “Let’s Talk” and
This is a “Let’s Talk” Newsletter indeed. It was her Trademark Line on that show when It came to Challenging Talks about Who wore what The Worst to What Event, and trying to criticize that without either Shaming them too much, or Making them feel horrible for Whatever They wore that They paid pretty much a Million Dollars for. I digress. So, Let’s Talk! So, This is kind of a Challenging Newsletter for Me to Write because It deals with Something Real in My Life.
So, Let’s Talk about Something Deep and A Little Uncomforting.
And, Don’t Worry, It won’t be Rated R Newsletter or Anything that concerns My Health.
So, This is About What I feel to be
An Epidemic in The Special Needs Community
Loneliness. Now, When I say that that It is Epidemic, in This Case, I don’t Mean A Sickness. It is Epidemic because It affects us People with Special Needs.
Now, Yes, I have heard that Statistically Speaking Anyway, People are More Lonely recently because Everyone basically Worships Technology (Like Phones, IPads and so on), and, Yeah, It is Partly about that. But, Not about that.
(Umm... Okay. Why though?!)
I have decided that I should Segment each Topic because People like that, but, Also, Parents of Young Children of PTLS are probably freaking out like
(Dramatically)“Oh My Gosh, My Child is going to be Lonely!”.
Yeah. Don’t Freak Out on Me! Just Listen, Okay!
Sometimes, It’s not Easy having Special Needs, Probably because of Those Two Words, “Special” and “Needs”
Most People define “Special”, at least in My Opinion as Special being More Child-like and Must be Talked to like a Child. Uh-Huh, Right. Rodger on that Big Turkey, NO.
Treat Us like Normal! Like You would with Any Other Adult!
“Needs” define as that, You Need Help with Something and/or You can’t do Something. And, Yeah, We do but that is Kind of Different to Understand. And, Yes, I hate being Told or Reminded about that. But, Anyway.
I think We feel Lonely, Firstly because of The Requirement and Understanding of The Whole “Special” and “Needs” part.
(Friends Online,
Friends Actual v. Friends Borrowed)
Now, One could look at Me or Others with Special Needs on The Surface like on My Facebook Page and You’ve got a lot of Friends. Yes, that’s True! I have a lot of Friends Online, Mostly Inside PTLS with a Few Outside of PTLS (Like Childhood Friends or Friends that I have met in a Unique Way, Gypsy January). But, I don’t see a lot of Them in Person because either They are Busy, Ya Know Living Life (Like Typical People Do) or They may or may not Realize and/or Understand What I’m Referring to.
So, There are Three Types of Friends that I have Personally and I’m sure that The Same applies to Alot of People with Special Needs.
Friends Online (Lots of Them!); Friends Actual (Fewer over Time); and Friends Borrowed (More of Them!)
Friends Online applies to Those “Friends” that You have met Online, in One Way or Another. In My Case, Through PTLS, Generally anyway.
Friends Actual applies to Friends that You made Friends with in Person, like Mostly throughout Your School Life like My Childhood Friends or My One High School Friend.
Friends Borrowed applies to Friends that are Someone Else’s Friends. Yes, They will Hang Out if You ask them to but, They are really The Friend of Someone Else.
For Example, When My Brother was in College, on The Days when He was Home, I would Hang out with His Friends that treated me Very Well, and, I am Very Grateful for that.
Roughly Every Month, I hang out with My Mom’s Friends, who treat me like I am Their Family Members, You know them as “The G.Ps” G.P Linda and G.P Diana respectively.
But, The Biggest Part of This Epidemic is The Following
(We also Don’t want to Burden Anyone.
Friends and Family!)
Now, It is Very Striking and Kind of Harsh Theory but, It is True though. We of The Special Needs Community are Lonely because of That Statement. We don’t want to Burden Anyone, Whether They are Friends (of Any Kind) or Even Family, as Much as We Love Them. Sad but True.
But, Then, Comes a Question about Do People with Special Needs like to Hang out with Other Special Needs People?
Well, It depends How Much Special Needs are We talking, A Little (like Moderate, High Functioning) or Alot (like Child-like Maturity, Who might be aggressive with me, or Needing Help with More than I can give.)
In Which, Yes and No. Yes, because of Camaraderie (Like Hanging out with Other PTLSers) and No, because We PTLSers anyway, Tend to Mimic Those that We are Spending Time with. So, Win or Lose with that One.
So, Then, Another Question and It’s a Big One!
(How do Special Needs People Handle Loneliness)
Well, That One is Hard to Answer because It can Swing in Various Ways.
For Some, It is going Deeply into An Interest (Like Me, Sometimes)
++ Watching Videos Over and Over (Yep)
++ Some People tend to Literal Stalk People Online, Mainly of The Opposite Sex and Try to Talk to (Not Me but, There are Some who that do That)
++ Getting on Video Games and Making Friends that Way. That is Probably The Easiest and Yet Dangerous Way to Make Friends. We see The Good in People, Plus Ya Know, Same Interest in Said Game (I Don’t do This but, I know People that do)
++ Of Course, It goes without Saying that Some Lonely Special Needs Adults resort to Things like AI Heck, with The Opportunity to Your Own AI Friend or AI Romantic Person?! I mean, What’s Wrong with That?! (If I was REALLY SUPER DUPER Lonely and Did not have a Woman of My Dreams in Mind, I probably still would not think about that. That has crossed The Back of My Mind. No, I don’t do that
Because I know that It is Dangerous
but, Some Special Needs Adults have)
So, Then, Other Question about This Then
(Is This Romantically Lonely or Lack-Of-Understanding Lonely. Spoiler Alert! It’s Both! )
Yep! It’s Both. The Lack-of-Understanding Lonely and Romantically Lonely are in This Case, Both. Because We want to A Romantic Person, However It is Hard because If You have a Typical Romantic Person, You have to Make Sure that They understand You, Your Special Needs, The Can v. Cannot know How to Support You and so on.
If You have a Special Needs Romantic Person, I feel like You will have an Endless Circle of “Honey, I need Help with XYZ” (Outside of Normal Everyday Things).
Personally, Any of The Women that I see Online (Meaning Facebook) are Too Young, Have Cats, Have Children, Already Taken, Have Tattoos or Piercings, or They are a “Sexy Girl” (meaning that They are Sexy and Proud of It).
I Like Modesty, Just Saying!
All in all, Loneliness in The Special Needs Community I feel needs to be Addressed and Luckily, I am The Person who is Addressing It. So, Thanks for Listening and Obviously, Not Judging! I Love You, My Readers! In Case, I have not stated that in while!
Thanks for Reading The Christianville Spirit. You are Golden if You have Good Friends (in Any Way) to Prevent Loneliness.
